Drifting apart is inevitable.....Sadist
Sigh.....Well, I guess no matter hw close friends or best friends are you will inevitably start drifting apart after some time, especially if you guys have a change in enviroment.
Well, I got this very close China friend that told me that people change when they go to different enviroments and he says that he knows best given that he stayed in different p阿rts of China and has seen more and witness more than me.I tried to deny it thinking that fundamentally there are still things in a person that will not change....which will mean that relationships might not necessary change much. Well, I certainly do not need him to remind me about all that changing for i have witnessed many things myself in the short span of 1 year plus when my best friends and I went to different colleges.
Well, one very good example to illustrate to yourself that you do behave differently in a different enviroment and with different people, try inviting just 2 groups of your friends that you got to know at different places,under different circumstances or maybe at diiferent times to do something together and you will see that your friends worlds do not match a lot and you might be caught in the middle with the need to entertain both parties. Well, I did that once and never did it again :( How nice it would be if your friends are also your friends friend etc, a big group of friends together but that is just not possible..... :(
Well, the me 2 years ago would never have expected to the me 2 years later in JC be so different that some of my values, principles and morales change. Maybe that 10 years in a missionary school have not taught me enough to keep some of the stuff deeply embedded in me. I did learn to be a better person in there, learn how life should be but once I left, all these start to fade away.
Then there are times when there are conversations among some of your close friends that you can relate to at all etc and thus feel alienated from them although at other times, you guys maybe very happy and close to each other because of some past memories that you guys share together. It really saddens me to see the differences that have formed between us no matter how close we were in the past. They say 知音难求 but they forgot to mention whenther 知音 in what sense and how loing that would last under what conditions. sigh......
It really frightens me at times to think that at the end of the road, you might have a lot of friends that came and go, close or just normal "hi-bye" friends and you will be left standing alone.
Well, I got this very close China friend that told me that people change when they go to different enviroments and he says that he knows best given that he stayed in different p阿rts of China and has seen more and witness more than me.I tried to deny it thinking that fundamentally there are still things in a person that will not change....which will mean that relationships might not necessary change much. Well, I certainly do not need him to remind me about all that changing for i have witnessed many things myself in the short span of 1 year plus when my best friends and I went to different colleges.
Well, one very good example to illustrate to yourself that you do behave differently in a different enviroment and with different people, try inviting just 2 groups of your friends that you got to know at different places,under different circumstances or maybe at diiferent times to do something together and you will see that your friends worlds do not match a lot and you might be caught in the middle with the need to entertain both parties. Well, I did that once and never did it again :( How nice it would be if your friends are also your friends friend etc, a big group of friends together but that is just not possible..... :(
Well, the me 2 years ago would never have expected to the me 2 years later in JC be so different that some of my values, principles and morales change. Maybe that 10 years in a missionary school have not taught me enough to keep some of the stuff deeply embedded in me. I did learn to be a better person in there, learn how life should be but once I left, all these start to fade away.
Then there are times when there are conversations among some of your close friends that you can relate to at all etc and thus feel alienated from them although at other times, you guys maybe very happy and close to each other because of some past memories that you guys share together. It really saddens me to see the differences that have formed between us no matter how close we were in the past. They say 知音难求 but they forgot to mention whenther 知音 in what sense and how loing that would last under what conditions. sigh......
It really frightens me at times to think that at the end of the road, you might have a lot of friends that came and go, close or just normal "hi-bye" friends and you will be left standing alone.
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